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Friday, June 19, 2009
What are your intentions with my daughter?
Having experiences in relationships – but not always successful ones, I was thinking that maybe I’m missing a step in the courtship process. I thought about my last relationship when after one month of dating, my ex-girlfriend’s father gave me a surprise call. I was a little tongue tied because he caught me off guard, and I want to say the right things and reassure her dad that I was one of the good guys. What I fell to do was to ask him a few questions about how he raised her. Had I known then what I know now – I might have made some better decisions about our relationship. Maybe the missing step in courtship is the much needed talk with your girl’s father the day you start dating her.
Traditionally when a girl meets a guy and falls in love she introduces her new man to her parents. And traditionally or inevitably the father wants to know what her man’s intentions are with his daughter. Fair enough question… But shouldn’t it be the other way around. Shouldn’t her new man be the one asking her father the questions – This guy could be her husband one day and shouldn’t he get the heads up of what he’s in for?
Whatever emotional damage the father does to his daughter as a child will affect her adult relationship with men. Therefore, for example, her new man should ask her father the following questions. Did you ever molest your daughter? Did you give her enough attention or were you to busy doing other things? Did you tell her you love her? Were you emotionally available? And did you re-assure her that she is worthy of being loved? The answer to each question has an incredible affect on the outcome of her relationship and what her man should expect. If daddy wasn’t emotionally and physically available she might have abandonment issues. Or if he molested her, than she might have sexual issues. Etc.
So when a father asks, “What are your intentions with my daughter?” Ask him some questions of your own. If you can’t – then answer the question what are your intentions with my daughter with - Sir my intentions is to spend the majority of my time figuring out daughters issues and correct the damage you’ve done.
Don’t you agree?
Traditionally when a girl meets a guy and falls in love she introduces her new man to her parents. And traditionally or inevitably the father wants to know what her man’s intentions are with his daughter. Fair enough question… But shouldn’t it be the other way around. Shouldn’t her new man be the one asking her father the questions – This guy could be her husband one day and shouldn’t he get the heads up of what he’s in for?
Whatever emotional damage the father does to his daughter as a child will affect her adult relationship with men. Therefore, for example, her new man should ask her father the following questions. Did you ever molest your daughter? Did you give her enough attention or were you to busy doing other things? Did you tell her you love her? Were you emotionally available? And did you re-assure her that she is worthy of being loved? The answer to each question has an incredible affect on the outcome of her relationship and what her man should expect. If daddy wasn’t emotionally and physically available she might have abandonment issues. Or if he molested her, than she might have sexual issues. Etc.
So when a father asks, “What are your intentions with my daughter?” Ask him some questions of your own. If you can’t – then answer the question what are your intentions with my daughter with - Sir my intentions is to spend the majority of my time figuring out daughters issues and correct the damage you’ve done.
Don’t you agree?
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